The biggest struggle in my life has been to be unapologetically myself. As a kid I loved reading, writing, telling stories and dancing, but at some point in my early adulthood, I completely lost myself. After school, I started studying business - something I’ve never wanted to do, but did to fit in, to please my parents and also because I was afraid to miss out on making the big bucks.
Back then I had no clue that the most important thing in life is to be true to yourself.
I grew up in a family where nobody had a University degree and because I’ve always been a bookworm and somebody who loves learning, my parents expected me to go study and have a big career. So instead of following my own path and trusting what I wanted, I chose to give other people’s happiness more importance than my own.
The following years were tough. I felt out of sync with myself for about 5 years, before I finally made the decision to quit my well-paid office-job and reignite my passion for dancing. I was teaching dance up until 2011 when I heard the inner call to share my journey, my struggles to be myself and to live a life according to my deepest ideals and desires.
I founded the Art of Being Myself to remind YOU of your dreams, your passions, your freedom and your birthright to create. My mission is to help you become aware of who you truly are and uncover the obstacles that are hindering you from becoming yourself in every aspect of your life.
My message to you:
Do more of what you love! Dare to be yourself! Honour your authentic truth by allowing yourself to follow your intuition, your dreams and your needs. Don’t be afraid to give up a luxurious lifestyle to do what’s calling you. The number one regret of people on their death bed is this: "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life that is true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
To be honest, committing to my path and my purpose isn’t always easy. When I quit my office job at 23, I went through a lot of fear - especially the fear of being rejected and misunderstood by others. Now, 10 years later I’ve become more of the person I really am, but there are still days when I feel powerless, I have no enthusiasm and I’m too harsh on myself. Every day I’m scraping off layers of fear. I’ve learned that the most powerful thing you can do, is to accept your dark sides and maybe even start liking them. Tough one, right?
Why is there so much resistance in us towards changing our lives?
Well, we think a change might hurt and you know what, it does sometimes. But what I’ve realized in the last 10 years is that nothing is as painful as not living a life that is in alignment with who you truly are.
What usually holds us back from resetting our lives and making a change is this little tiny voice in our head that tells us:
I had the exact same thoughts, but I found out that most of them are limiting beliefs that we keep telling ourselves and that we learned from our parents or our society. Wayne Dyer said it best: “The only limits you have are the ones you believe.”
If you’re not satisfied with your job, but you have no idea what you’d rather do, please don’t freak out. I have some great resources on my website that you can use for free and that will help you with getting clear about what you want and what’s holding you back.
I’ve created a lot of blog posts around that topic that you can find in my public library. One of my most popular ones are:
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Let’s start a friendship! I’m so glad the Universe brought you here (did I mention that I don’t believe in coincidences?).
Hugs and Love,
I believe that our desires are there for a reason. They’re like an inner compass that leads us to our life’s purpose. Therefore, one of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself is “What turns me on?”
You wanna know what turns me on?
By the way, do you wanna know how I turned my passion into a job? Watch this!
Here is what other people say about me and the Art of Being Myself:
"Thank you for being visible and sharing and caring. Your posts and newsletter and everything you do always always make my day. Make me think, and - at best - change the way I look at myself, my aspirations, my flaws. Be more kind to myselF - first of all - and think big. Get out of the 'I cannot' corner and closer to the 'I want' one." - Christine Gerlach
"I have the feeling that you write each newsletter just for me! You constantly bring me to new ideas and thoughts - to see everything from a new and inspiring perspective. Thank you! I love your posts!" - Miriam Otto
"Thank you so much for being so inspiring! I remember last year, when I was so distressed about my job. I felt so burned out and I knew, that I could not go on like this. I felt lost – I had no idea, which direction to go. Isn’t it funny, that at the same time, you started your website with all these great articles? You know, I do not believe in coincidences either;-) You helped me so much during that time, with your empathy and sharing your thoughts and ideas with me. Your articles always seemed to reach me the time I needed them most – kind of crazy, isn’t it;-) Today, I can say that the changes I made in my life were strongly influenced by your support. I decided to quit my job and transfer into another position in the firm, even though I was worried about all the things that could go wrong…”What will my colleagues say?”...”They might think I wasn’t strong enough to handle the stress.”…”Will I loose my career opportunities?”…”What if I don’t get along with my new colleagues?”. Today, more than a year later, I know my fears were groundless and that you have to trust yourself, no matter what other people might say. My transfer was one of the best decisions I ever made. My new job turned out to be much more interesting and fun. Enjoying what I do has made me happier in so many ways. Thank you so much for your support and for always being there. Love you sweetheart." - Pamela Klaeb
On my team:
Colleen Rhodes / Editor
Born and raised in a suburb of Toronto, Colleen recently quit her corporate job of 25 years and relocated to Vancouver to become her own boss. She has been basking in the joy of cultivating her inner crafty being: Seamstress, Bracelet Maker, Photographer and Writer. With this refreshing new start, she hopes to live her life doing the things she loves instead of living someone else’s dream.
Her love for writing started as a young child when she dreamed of becoming a poet. Her writing flourished throughout high school but came to an end when “real life” took over. Picking up where she left off almost 30 years ago, she now has a collection of 70+ poems, has her own blog and is writing a book to help women like herself find their freedom.
A passionate animal lover, Colleen is momma to Cooper Dog & Charlie Cat. She donates 10% of her sewing business, Meins Designs, to an animal sanctuary in Campbellville, Ontario. She also volunteers her time every month at an animal sanctuary in Langley, BC and does her best to live a cruelty-free life.
An avid fan of The Art of Being Myself, Colleen is excited to be a new member of Paula’s team!
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