How to deepen the connection with your intuition

written by Paula Hartmann


There is a saying in Germany: “If you don’t want to listen, you have to feel.” 


This week I told my son Luke to put on his balaclava because it was -20 degrees here in Toronto. But you know how 6 year-olds are. They’re starting to develop their own opinion and they want to be little rebels and not listen to their mommies. That’s fine with me. I know suffering is the best teacher, so I let him have his will. 


We went outside over the big field we need to cross to get to his school. The weather was treacherous and the snow was blowing in our faces. I saw him suffering when he turned around and said, “I don’t think I can make it mom!” In this moment I pulled his balaclava out of my pocket and gave it to him. Of course I brought it and I couldn't help but to add, “Hey, maybe trust me next time. Moms know!”


This is pretty much the exact relationship most people have to their intuition. They just don’t want to listen. They want to have their own will until life becomes intolerable or too painful. And then finally, they are willing to open up to start listening to their inner guidance. 


You could say our intuition is like a loving mother who knows what’s best for us. She has experience. She went through pretty much everything and she wants us to suffer as little as possible. She feels sad if we don’t listen to her, but she also knows that we have our free will to decide to do whatever we want. She never seeks revenge or feels offended if we don’t take her seriously. She patiently waits for the moment we give in and say, “Okay, what was this suggestion you had earlier?” The only thing she longs for is to see that we’re feeling good.  


So if you’re not feeling good at the moment (physically, emotionally, mentally) the reason is most certainly that you’re not listening to your inner guidance and instead you’re hanging on to what your ego wants. Your ego might say, 

  • “I want to get all of these things done today no matter what it takes.”
  • “I’ve always had three coffees in the morning and I’m planning to not change anything about this.”
  • “I have no time to go for a walk right now.”
  • “I know this job sucks, but what am I supposed to do? I don’t want to give up my 3-bedroom apartment.”
  • “I have no time to sit down and paint. I have more important things to do.”
  • “It’s 9.30pm and I’m tired. But going to bed so early is for losers.”


Hang on to what you want and you will feel like shit! 


Listen to what feels good to you in this moment and you’ll see how fast your aliveness and your joy will come back into your life. 


Every time you’re not feeling good, it’s your body telling you that you’re heading into the wrong direction. Maybe you’re working too much and not playing enough. Maybe you’re shutting yourself off from other people. Maybe you’re hanging out with the wrong ones. Maybe you’re not allowing yourself to do what makes you happy. 


I’m not here to judge anybody, because I’m going through phases of “not listening” myself all the time. And sometimes we know what is not right in our life and we simply can’t change things from one day to the next. That’s ok. What is important is to make a step into the right direction every single day - even if it’s a small one. 


Ways to start deepen the connection to your intuition are:

  • Regular Journaling
  • Spending time doing absolutely nothing (for example just sitting in a cafe watching your surroundings, laying on the couch and watching your thoughts or day-dreaming)
  • Spending time on your own (no cell phone, no social media, no friends)
  • Doing things your heart loves
  • Spending time in nature
  • Slowing down the pace of your day (If you never have a moment to relax, your intuition will not be able to reach you)
  • Practicing letting go of thoughts and experiencing this moment fully (best book of all time: The power of now from Eckhart Tolle)


The more often you say “Yes” to the suggestions of your intuition, the more aware you will become of this gentle voice and the more you will trust and act on it. 


Start spending more time on your own, listen to the sudden urges of your body and you will experience more joy and peace in your life.


So much love, 

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