You can’t force a flower to bloom. You can’t rip it open and reveal its beauty to the world violently. You have to wait until it’s ready to blossom. The same applies to people. You can’t change people. You can give them books that you've read and changed your life, but if they’re not ready, they will fall asleep reading it.
I’ve tried that so many times. I gave my parents a copy of the book The Power of Now, I talked people into watching Eckhart Tolle videos on YouTube with the expectation that they would hug me and say, "Thank you for showing me the secret of true happiness.” Most of them stopped reading the book after a few pages and told me later on that it felt so irrelevant to them.
I used to get so frustrated about this. I wanted people to feel what I feel, I wanted people to realize what I’ve realized without having to go through anymore suffering.
But it doesn’t work like that.
People are ready when they’re ready. A lot of people will have to still go through immense suffering. For example, losing a family member, losing a partner, losing their possessions or getting really sick, in order to open up to the possibility that you can live a life filled with peace and joy.
I can accept that now. I’m done pushing people to their own happiness. I’ve had to learn the hard way that it’s a waste of my precious energy.
If you consider yourself a light worker, which is someone who feels called to heal others or wants to resolve the world's social and environmental problems, and you feel frustrated about not getting through to people, ask yourself these questions:
Why do I need people to change?
Do I need people to change to be able to feel good?
Is my peace dependent on other people’s peace?
The desire for others around you to become more conscious might be your ego’s last attempt to keep you away from living in harmony. Now that you’ve changed and you’re more conscious of yourself and your surroundings the only obstacle your ego can invent to keep you away from paradise is telling you: “I can only be at peace, when everybody around me is at peace too.” These thoughts will definitely keep you from feeling fully relaxed.
What I’ve noticed is that the ego never wants you to be content simply with what is, because that would mean the end of its power over you. The ego always wants to keep a mission open for you telling you “I will finally be able to relax when all my friends know about this, when my parents feel better, healthier, are more happy or make more conscious decisions..."
Being at peace means accepting what is. If you don’t accept the people around you, how they are and what part of their journey they are in, you can’t fully relax.
Pamela Kribbe writes in her book Heart-centered living:
"That is light work: being your natural self, having peace with yourself and radiating that peace to others. It is not about carrying other people’s burdens or finding solutions to their problems. It is about carrying the energy of the solution in your own being and openly sharing it with others. That is the core of your mission on Earth, the core of what it means to bring light."
One thing you can do if you want to inspire people around you and especially the ones that you love is to apply everything that you've learned and just live it. People learn through example more than they learn through words.
Be a role model for others by making decisions that make YOU feel good. People will feel your vibration on a subconscious level.
You’re not responsible to change the world, your parents, your kids or your friends. Life simply wants you to play, have fun, enjoy every moment and be who you are.
As Pamela Kribbe says it:
“You are not here to “fix” other people or Mother Earth. You are here to heal the deep wounds within your own being. Please tend to this task and all else will fall into place without any effort on your part.”