I’ve been in a lot of pain lately and continuously for the last 18 months. Especially before and during my menstrual flow, I suffer from back pain in the left side of my body. I went to the chiropractor and he told me to do more exercises. I love doing exercises, so that’s not the problem. I have my daily walk, I do yoga and I shake my butt as often as possible. I would say my body is in a healthy state, but nonetheless, I get these aches and pains in my back and neck.
A few months ago I was at a point, where I didn’t know what to do any more. Well actually, I’m still at that point, but at the same time I’m much calmer. I know that I can’t DO much, but that this pain has its own reason for being.
Every time I suffer from it, I become intensely present, mainly because I have no other choice. This pain is so intense that I can’t distract myself from it. I’m also not the type of person who wants to take a lot of pain killers, because I believe that every pain has a message for us and if we numb it we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to tune in to what it’s trying to tell us.
This is also the reason why I stopped taking cannabis oil. I used to take it once in a while, because it gave me a relief from the pain, but in the end, all drugs - no matter if natural or chemical - have one thing in common; they are a band-aid and don’t deal with the root of the problem. Your pain might go away for a while but it won’t be cured.
In the last year I used to be in total resistance to the pain. I had thoughts like:
Why do I have to go through this?
Why do I have to suffer so much?
Why is this pain even there?
It’s so unfair that this is happening to me...
Now, I’m not in resistance anymore. I know that this pain has a message for me and I noticed that it’s always accompanied by a stream of thoughts which is mostly negative. It could be negative thoughts about myself, a person that’s close to me or I get feelings of guilt, regret and sadness from past experiences.
Eckhart Tolle, the author of The Power of Now calls this phenomenon the pain-body. He explains it like this:
"The pain-body is the accumulation of old emotional pain that almost all people carry in their energy field. It consists of negative emotions that were not faced, accepted, and then let go in the moment they arose.”
So that means, that you can heal your pain by bringing awareness to it, by facing it, feeling it and accepting it as what it is: the pain body = old emotional pain.
If you’re pain is intense, of course you should consider seeking medical advice. But if your doctor tells you what to do and nothing changes or you’ve tried everything and you’re still dealing with the same pain, my suggestion is to start a new relationship with it.
Don’t fight it anymore. Allow it to be.
Don’t run away from it. Face it and feel it.
When you open yourself up to the possibility that your physical pain might have something to do with an emotional wound that you haven’t faced and that you’re trying to repress, you’re already on your journey of healing.
Dr. John E. Sarno - Professor of Rehabilitation Medicine says in his book Healing Back Pain: The Mind-Body Connection:
“There's nothing like a little physical pain to keep your mind off your emotional problems.”
For a lot of people expressing their “negative” emotions like fear, sadness, anger, rage or unworthiness etc. is a no-go. They might have learned in their childhood that it’s not suitable to be angry or to show their fear openly. At some point they decided to repress these emotions, either because they experienced a lack of love from their parents when they were expressing them or they decided it wasn’t safe which might have been true at this moment.
In over 20 years of research Dr. John E. Sarno found out that all of his patients were cured from their back pain in a time frame of one to six weeks, after they had accepted the fact that it was an emotional and not a structural pain. They had to constantly ask themselves: “What emotions am I avoiding here?” And by acknowledging their “negative” emotions instead of pushing them away, they were cured.
After reading Dr. John E. Sarno’s book two weeks ago, my back pain has diminished by, I would say, 90%. Holy cow! This is powerful stuff.
It’s also not the first time I had a spontaneous healing happening to me. Through a self-healing-technique called EFT that I learned two years ago, I became aware of a very old emotional pain that I had carried within me since my early childhood. Through facing this repressed emotion, I allowed myself to consciously feel this pain again within my whole body. It almost felt like I was reliving a part of my past. After about a week of crying about what happened to me as a child, I felt intensely tired and very calm and I noticed that from this moment on, my asthma, that I had had for over 20 years was suddenly gone and hasn’t returned. Miracle no. 2.
Eckhart Tolle’s teachings, Dr. John E. Sarno’s research and the theory behind EFT, all point to the same truth:
If you’re dealing with chronic pain, I highly recommend reading both of these books and trying an alternative self-healing technique like EFT, also called Tapping.
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