I always tried to be a "good" girl and I don't know why.
I don't want to analyze it. Maybe it's my fucked up childhood, who knows and who cares.
Fact is, that I had to learn the hard way that being a "good" girl won't bring me anywhere.
I personally thought, that being good means
I thought that if I wanna be lovely, I have to give love all the time.
Fuck, I can't believe that I had to become 32 to notice that these thoughts don't serve me. Being a good girl (in this kinda way) won't get me to heaven. Instead it most certainly feels like hell.
There is this hot chick out there. Her name is Danielle Laporte. I would love to meet her in person, but anyways, she says:
"Put up a fucking big fence around your heart!"
(Thanks Danielle for being spiritual and using the word fuck at the same time. It's so liberating.)
So, don't get me wrong. You can have an open heart for people who deserve it and who get you. But for some guys out there, you have to close the gates of your heart confidently.
Honestly, everything else would be self-hatred.
Answer these questions:
Are you allowing other people to change who you really are?
Do you let other people hinder you from achieving your biggest dreams?
Do you think you always have to be nice and kind to everyone?
Do you let other people use you, change you, manipulate you, persuade you to do things you don't want to do?
Do you turn your NO into a YES if somebody is putting on the sad face?
Do you hang out with people who support what you're doing or do you have to constantly fight for your dreams?
Baby, let me point that out: You don't have to fight.
You deserve a back-up team. You deserve having cheerleaders around you, screaming your name and shouting:
Go Sweetie, go!
It's not about being a "good" girl and doing "good" things.
What does that mean anyways?
It's about doing what is good for you and showing some respect for yourself. Then magical things will happen. Then you don't sacrifice your own freedom for somebody else's.
Here are a few things, which are good for you, but will make you look like an asshole sometimes:
Basically, it's all about your self-worth! You are the most important person in your life. Basta!
To be a "good" girl will literally make you sick if good means that you don't listen to your heart.
Instead you have to start doing what you really want to do. This might not be the politest thing. This might upset others, scare them away. They might even start screaming at you, but if you start giving yourself more respect, your energy will be on a completely different level. And...yes...the universe likes people who love themselves.
I don't tell you to be an asshole, but you must be yourself and this might look like being one a lot of the times.
If you've always been the "good" girl and it didn't get you anywhere, maybe try something else. Just for fun and then let's see what happens.
And as a good friend said to me last week: