Are you stuck in a looser-mindset? This is why you don't get what you desire.




I am the worst writer ever.


My blog sucks and not even my boyfriend takes my stuff seriously.


What am I even doing here?


Who do I think I am that I can teach people to change their lives? My life isn’t perfect either.


Maybe I should just stop investing so much time in this project. Nobody really cares for it anyways.


Nobody gives a damn shit about…


…and then these thoughts go on and on and on…


Do you know these days too where the only enemy you have is yourself?


You’re putting yourself down with an inner monologue of negative thoughts.


Maybe it started with something small. You saw a more “successful” person who is working in the same business than you. Or something didn’t work out the way you wanted it to; and suddenly these negative thoughts come crawling into your mind.


If you don’t pay close attention in this very moment, one bad thought will lead to another and another and another and before you even know it, you’ll find yourself in the middle of the worst mood ever. 


You know what I mean, right?


Suddenly you just wanna bitch about everybody and everything and let’s be honest…this feels like shit. 


The good news are that if you recognize that you are negative, you’re already half way out of what I call the looser-mindset.


Here are two things I want you to know about the looser-mindset:


1. Negative thoughts about yourself are not true


Don’t confuse these thoughts with who you are. They are just thoughts. They have nothing to do with you and even the most successful people have them. They just don’t take them too seriously.


2. Negative thoughts about yourself have no value


If you understand that these kind of thoughts have no value and don’t help you to get to a better place, then you can give them up more easily.


You might still wish that you were in a more desirable situation, but if you know, that thinking ‘I’m a looser’ won’t help you to develop towards the direction you want to grow, you will voluntarily change your thoughts to a more motivating mindset.


Let me wrap that up:


Negative thoughts about yourself or other people won’t help you to achieve your dreams.


They have the opposite effect.




Your thoughts become your feelings.

Your feelings become your beliefs.

Your beliefs influence your actions.

Your actions create your reality.


So basically, every single thought you have creates your reality.


With this fact in mind, wouldn’t you wanna be a little bit more careful about what you think about yourself?


Wouldn’t you wanna be a bit more loving towards yourself?


Don’t forget, you can change your thoughts about who you are whenever you decide for it.


I love this quote from Margaret Cho, who knows exactly what I mean:


"I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose."


So grab a sheet and a pen right now. Write 5 loving things about who you are (even if it’s still your dream).


These words are powerful.


I am …

I am…

I am…

I am…

I am…


Let’s grow some wings.




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