Trust Your Gut: Your Own Inner Wisdom Is The Only Source Of Knowledge You’ll Ever Need


What I feel inside of me to be true is the exact opposite of what is practiced in our society. 


In our culture we’re all conditioned to not look for answers within ourselves. Instead, we listen to institutions, doctors, spiritual teachers, healers, the news and the latest magazine gossip. We’re all trained to give away our power to authorities or other people around us instead of tuning within and asking ourselves:


  • Who am I?
  • What do I really want to do?
  • Does my life reflect who I am?
  • What’s the true nature of my being and am I bringing my essence into my work, my relationships and my encounters?


What I’ve come to know is that I am here to express myself creatively, to be here fully and to enjoy my life, but this has been conditioned out of me - out of everybody - from a very early age. 


In school I followed the rules of my teachers expecting them to know all the answers. At home I followed the rules of my parents thinking they must have it all figured out. Just to find out after so many years of blind obedience that a lot of the things I've learned from society and my culture were wrong. 


I have been told that I should not do what brings me joy, but instead follow what everybody else is doing. 


I have been told that I can’t heal myself, but that I need doctors and drugs to make me feel good. 


I have been told that it’s selfish to love myself.


I have been told that in order to be loved I have to please other people and make them happy.


I have been told that you have better chances to have a successful career and earn good money if you go to University and cramp your brain full of stuff that you’re not interested in. 


I have also been told that you have to achieve certain things (a degree, a social status, a certain amount of money, a certain look) to be respected and loveable.


So, like a blind person, I trusted the pieces of advice from everybody else around me while constantly ignoring my inner voice, my true essence and my true nature. 


This journey of looking outside of myself for answers is coming to an end and I’m committed to trust my inner voice that has been guiding me since I was a little kid. I’ve always felt like a misfit, alone and misunderstood because my core values and my truth were in conflict with the values of the majority of people I met. I suffered from a deep loneliness and always felt that I needed to struggle and swim against the current only to find out that my purpose is to be myself. 


In the past, every time I let other people decide what’s good for me instead of trusting my own heart, I suffered. Every time I decided to listen to what love wants me to do, I came closer to my true essence and experienced joy in living.


What if I told you that you don’t need anybody to help you make decisions in your life, but that you have every answer for every question already inside of you? You just need to turn within and listen to the silence of your being. Go for a walk in nature, sit under a tree, allow yourself to just be, quiet your mind and the answers will come - no matter what problem you’re facing right now.


If you feel that your life lacks aliveness and you’re confused with all the conflicting messages you get from people, doctors, self-help books etc., go within and ask:


What would I do if I weren’t afraid?


How can I love myself more?


What would I be doing right now if I did love myself?


Not embracing who you are in the core of your being can cause you to feel a lack of enthusiasm for your life. It can make you feel depressed and even cause physical pains. All of these forms of suffering are not there to torture you; they’re a chance to make you more aware of what’s going on inside of you. Your body is communicating with you through your pain (physical and emotional) and it wants to help you become aware of who you truly are. It wants to help you realize in which areas of your life you’re not fully accepting yourself. 


Trust your feelings and trust your gut and see yourself as the most valuable source of knowledge to turn to when you’re in need for answers.


Sending you tons of love, 


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Finding The Perfect Job Is No Different Than Finding The Perfect Sandwich!


It took me eight sandwiches and a couple of months to find the perfect combination of bread and toppings. My perfect sandwich comes with garlic focaccia, lemon-chili spread, smoked salmon, grilled zucchini and fresh tomatoes. 


While I was biting into this delicious creation, I had a revelation: 


It takes a couple of bad and unsatisfying choices to find the perfect fit - the perfect partner, the perfect job, the perfect style etc.


Fact is, if you don’t play around, you’ll never know what really works for you. That’s why it’s good to experiment - with lovers, with food, with jobs, with everything. 


Tom Hodgkinson says,


In a world where you are constantly asked to be committed, it is liberating to give yourself the license to be a dilettante. Commit to nothing. Try everything."


Here is a list of jobs I’ve done since I was 14 years old:


  • Cashier 
  • Shoe salesperson, 
  • Bartender, 
  • Ice cream shop manager, 
  • Analyst, 
  • Sales coordinator, 
  • Ballet & hiphop teacher, 
  • Dancer, 
  • Paper girl, 
  • Kids art class teacher, 
  • Fine foods sales rep, 
  • Writer


I experimented a lot and there were times when I felt that committing to myself was looked at as a crime. 


Personally, I find it absurd to expect young adults to make a career decision for the rest of their lives. But weirdly, this is how our society works. You go to school and by the age of 18 you’re supposed to know what you want. If you’re lucky, you have parents who support you to study something you love. But even then, the things you love can change and what you were passionate about 10 years ago might bore you to tears now. If you’re unlucky, you were raised in an environment that is money and success driven and it doesn’t even occur to you that your job is supposed to be enjoyable. 


There is pressure to know who you want to be at a very early age - without having a lot of life experience yet. On top of that, we live in a society that is ruled by fear; fear of not having enough money, fear of not being successful enough, fear of not being someone with a certain degree, fear of not being knowledgeable enough. This is another thing that prevents us from changing careers when we’re already established in a field. Fear says: "Hey, you better stick to that so-so job if there is a chance of getting a worse one." 


People who made the switch told me that their parents and friends had a lot of worries like that they wouldn’t earn the same amount of money, not have the same opportunities or take a step back on the career ladder etc. They were worrying more about the outside factors than how the person is feeling inside and what makes this person happy.


It takes courage to not be influenced by the opinions of others and to also ignore your own thoughts that say:



Most of the thoughts you have are influenced by the environment you were brought up in. You don’t own these thoughts; they’re borrowed from your parents, teachers and friends that you grew up with. One way to check if your thoughts are original is to listen to them and see how they make you feel or if there is a clash between what you feel and what you think. 


Most of the people I know haven’t changed their jobs in the last 15 years. Some of them climbed up the career ladder and some of them work for different companies but over all they’re operating in the same field. This really surprises me. Could it be that 90% of the people I know knew exactly what they wanted when they were 18 years old? Most likely not. 


It’s comfort and fear that keeps people from trying different things. 


If we would commit to our present selves more instead of committing to who we were 20 years ago, there would be more joy in our lives. Maybe less comfort, maybe less money, less success, less fame, but more joy.


If it takes eight sandwiches to find the perfect one, how can we expect to hit the perfect job with the first shot? It’s like deciding to eat the first sandwich that you’ve ever ordered for the rest of your life. OMG! I would have ended up with a microwaved cheese on toast and some ketchup on the side. 


Dare to follow joy and ask yourself: Who am I now? 


You might have changed. 




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